Ask Steph — Mr. Wont-Commit

Dear Steph,

How do I get my not-boyfriend to commit without him using all the excuses like he’s finding himself and so on?


Miss X


Dear Miss X,

Forcing someone to commit to you when their not willing or ready to, can be a mistake.  I speak from personal experience when I say that you have to give them the time that they need to “find themselves” or whatever it is that is plaguing them.  Try to have patience.  If it’s meant to be, it will happen.  However, I feel that if you have been together or on/off for a while, perhaps it may be time to find someone new.  Waiting around for something that could quite possibly never happen isn’t healthy for you or for him.  Find someone who will commit and give you everything that you need. 


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